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LOOKING BACK ON LIFE WITH REGRETS
   
OK, let me get something straight: the only brunette person I accept in my life is myself, besides this, I had enough of uglies, so no more uglies, ok??? 
Life is too short to date people you don’t COMPLETELY like, to get married under pressure, to stay married forced by circumstances. You know, they say sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick! Well, back a few months ago, you know that I was hit with more than a brick, I was hit on the head by a falling rock. I suffered and I still do, but that was the best thing that happened to me, because I survived! All I could think of was that I had never got to honor even a half of my dreams and that all I had done were things that “others” expected of me. I learned that my time on Earth is LIMITED!!! Life is too short to chase after people that DON’T WANT YOU, to stay with someone you no longer WANT, to WAIT for people that are not READY or to be someone’s second best. Life is too short to do things that are not really important. Take only what is best for you! Life is too short to cling to someone or to allow others cling to you! I gave up on many things trying to make others happy, and I really wonder how many made me happy so far? I gave up on my music career, I never relocated under the pressure of other people’s voices, when I should have listened to my inner voice. I never enjoyed life as I was too busy helping other people enjoy theirs. I’m not telling anyone to be selfish, I will never be able to be selfish myself! I am just asking you to respect the only life you’ve been given. Be true to yourself, the way I was when I said I only like blondes :) Don’t let others decide what “you can’t do,” or what “you must do”, just follow your intuitions!

LIFE IN COMMUNIST ROMANIA


Communism was intended to be a society in which all individuals were equal, private property was abolished, and collective property was established. The equalitarian society offered all its citizens a job; moreover, it qualified them in order that they contribute to the common well-being, the common good of this society. However, the communist ideal proved to be impassable and the lack of political pluralism as well as placing the power in the hands of a single person soon led to dictatorship.
          The beginning of World War II would carry Romania on the altar of never-ending sufferance, leading to serious territorial losses.
          On August 23, 1939, Nazi Germany and the Soviet Union signed the Hitler-Stalin agreement, a pact which foresaw that the Romanian provinces 'Basarbia' and 'North Bucovina' be evacuated and surrendered to the Soviet Union. Besides these territories, 'Herta Province' was taken also. The Soviet Union carried on a ceaseless campaign for the elimination of the Romanians and their national spirit through mass deportations, imposing the use of Russian language, and the decimating of Romania’s cultural and traditional values.
          The systematic robbery of Romania continued in 1940 with the Vienna Dictate, Germany’s allies forced Romania to concede half of Transylvania to Hungary. On September 7, 1940, through the Craiova Dictate, "The quadrilater” was conceded to Bulgaria.
          On September 1940, Marshall Ion Antonescu was appointed as Prime Minister. One year later, under his command "Soldiers, I command you, cross Prut River”, the Romanian army freed Basarabia and North Bucovina, which were occupied by the Red Army. Unfortunately those territories were consequently re-occupied by the Soviet Union in 1944. 
          On March 6, 1945, the Petru Groza government is established. It is under the Communist Party control and sustained by the Soviets. The elections of November 1946 are falsified so that results indicate an overwhelming victory for the Communist Party holding no less than 70% of the ballots. Fearing that the Monarchy could endanger the political totalitarianism, the communists forced King Mihai I of Romania to abdicate and to leave the country on December 30, 1947. On the very same day Romania was declared a Popular Republic. Namely, power is taken over by the communists and thus the liquidation of the democratic forces in Romania. Thus Romania enters into the sphere of Soviet influence, putting into practice the collectivization of the lands, the nationalization of the factories and properties, and introduces planned economy.
          The lands, the animals and the agricultural equipments are confiscated; many of the wealthy citizens are arrested. The "Agricultural Cooperatives of Production", belonging to the Communist Party, took possession of farms. Starting in the 1960’s, the Romanian Communist Party leads policies, which have an independent perspective of Moscow. Communist leader, Gheorghe Gheorghiu Dej, becomes the President of Romania in March 1961, and concedes to liver cancer in 1965. Some sources believe he had been irradiated, on the occasion of his last visit at Moscow, resulting consequences of his anti-Soviet orientations. At this time, Gheorghiu Dej establishes international relations with the U.S.A, with Romania becoming a "friendly" communist state during the cold war.
          Nicolae Ceausecu, becomes the General Secretary of the Communist Party in 1965, and in 1967 becomes the President of Romania.
          During the 70’s through loans obtained from the occidental banks, he succeeds in accelerating the pace of economical development for the country.
          He continues the policies of independence toward Moscow, rebuilding relations with the U.S.A, signing with them an economic protocol in 1970, and within 5 years obtaining the Most-favored-nation Clause. However, Ceausescu’s development project proved to be of exaggerated proportions, and doubled by the president’s will to liquidate any external debts.
          Romania begins a period of continuous industrial progression, including the development of the roads network, electrification, building of hydro-electric plants, barrages, industrial giants, and the building of the Danube-Black Sea Canal, numerous tourist resorts, large centers of residential buildings, for every citizen (Homelessness was non existent during the Ceausescu’s era.).  A series of mega structures were built, including the famous Parliament House, the second largest constructed facility to the Pentagon.
           At the same time, in order to put those projects into practice, Romania's exports had risen enormously. Those trends led to a long period of austerity during the 80’s, worsened by people’s isolation from the rest of the world, by political persecutions, propaganda and indoctrination using mass media, the cult of personality pushed to limits.
          Psychologically the impact had more to do with the lack of freedom of opinion, the extreme poverty being endured, and the total domination of a society to take absolute control. The impossibility of obtaining any necessary goods was extreme and following along with the decimation of cultural, traditional or religious values, all replaced by other so called "values", all being of communist origin.
          Amongst those new values counts a character named Frosty, sort of an undercover Santa Clause. Frosty would dress as Santa Claus, but had nothing to do with the birth of Jesus, and would come on New Year’s Eve, a maneuver meant to erase the Christian tradition held by the Romanian people, celebrating Christmas for centuries as with all in the Christian world, on December 25th. Although in some families, who had preserved their traditions, not thinking along the lines of communist ideology, Santa Clause faithfully came on Christmas day. The communist Santa, Frosty, seemed to enjoy patriotic poems to boost his ego. In the schools, including the youngest in kindergarten, had to take part in organized celebrations where they would recite, to Frosty, poems specifically dedicated to the communist party and its great achievements, as well dedicated to their beloved leaders, both Nicolae Ceausescu and his wife Elena Ceausescu (the latter named without foundation as “World-Renowned Scientists”. In reality Elena was a simple uneducated country woman, with illegally obtained degrees.
Other ghosts from my past keep crossing my mind, all there, connected with the past I will never forget.
          Thoughts bring back the lineups I witnessed, never ending lineups for "Chicken Sets". Chicken Sets were in fact the part of the chicken that was given to the population, the claws, the wings, the throats. The lack of heating in people’s houses was another problem faced.
          During the last years of communism Television consisted of one Program, broadcast on one channel, for two hours, and dedicated specifically   and    entirely  to    communist   propaganda and eulogies
dedicated to Dictator Ceausescu.
          Some Romanians showed their discontent with the regime and being "less obedient" than the rest of the population, listened in the quiet to international radio stations such as Radio Free Europe and The Voice of America. I remember the famous radio sets named “Glory”. Called as such, because all that was created through communism was glorious, grand, imposing.
          Others will also remain imprinted in my mind forever, hearing the language, ceaselessly circulating through all mass media of the time: ardency, grandiose foundations, the gold age, steersman, working enthusiasm etc. The middle class population, made up of workers, was the target audience for implementing the strategies of communist ideology.
          The unanimous desire of the people was to identify with the Communist Party. The president was perceived as "father” of the nation, the almighty man, and brave man, a man who was protecting and guiding the people step by step. All propaganda around the president came in the words of contentedness, obligation, praise, glory, and of course, obedience. "Party" was a word of honor, identified with the country and each citizen separately; there was a communist in every citizen.
          These are realities that people born in the namely "free world" know very little about. However there were ways to, virtually, leave this locked up world. People could buy VCR’s, where they could watch movies or TV shows from the free world. Also, German catalogues such as Nekermann or Otto would circulate, not to purchase anything, just so we could see what new products were there, in the free world markets.
          The Communist Utopia envisioned the equality to rights and life standards for all citizens. However there were people that were visibly living much better, such as the Nomenclature clerks and physicians. In stores a large part of goods were sold conditioned by the purchasing of other products, (for instance if you had bought a color film you would have bought a plastic necklace, some alimentary products were conditioned by the purchasing of some shrimp bags.)
          Those that wanted to buy milk or yogurt had to wake very early around 5:00AM and be in front of the market place, where waiting lists were drawn up. The groceries were empty, only tinned fish were in abundance, but in reality, no one was starving, because every so often, the stores were supplied and the people would buy in large quantities, to stock up for awhile, but they waited in long lines for what they got.
          Sugar and oil were also rationed; each person was allowed a fixed quantity of the two products per month.
          Sweets were rare and bad quality anyway, except candies which were in abundance, every shape and flavor. In some areas of the country even the bread was rationed or sold fractioned, one loaf and a half, loaf and quarter, etc. Out at the country side, the farmers were not independent anymore; they were forced to associate, to work in collectives. Under the form of a tax owed to the state, they had to donate a part of their crops and of the animals in their farms to those Agricultural Cooperatives of Production.
The first page of the textbooks showed the Presidents picture, and his portrait was customarily hung over the blackboard in each room. Classrooms were organized in sections, in detachments led by a commander, who was always the best student, and had in charge of three other group commanders.
          In schools there were two types of uniforms, one was worn on regular days, the other one was the celebratory uniform, worn only on certain days of the week or during special organized festivities. Both uniforms had one special piece, the red tie, for students that were Pioneers (the students with best learning results). One of the most humiliating punishments a student could endure for lack of discipline or bad testing results was to take away the red tie; this considered a shame amongst other students.
          Customary with the girls’ uniform was a white band, an elastic band worn as not to allow the student’s hair from falling on face. Not wearing the white band during class could bring many types of punishment including the withdrawal of the red pioneer tie, lowering the girls’ demeanor amongst classmates. Another part of the Scholars uniform was an administrative number. This number was sewn on a label which was both on inside uniform and outside clothes as well. On it was that number that corresponded to each student.
          It should also be noted that teachers were given full rain as to what punishment to give the child, corporal punishment beating the child’s palms with a plastic ruler, slapping, warming the ears or the student standing in the corner with his or her hands above there head for the entire class. Students, upon turning 14, and finishing school, and depending on their School test results, had to become members of the YCU (Young Communists Union).
          Saturdays were not free for students, as well as for the rest of the employed population, the latter used to profit by the „reduced working week”, which meant that a Saturday a week was free.
          There were a series of extra curricular activities, which students were obligated to take, included such things as breeding silk worms, tea picking, and recycling as well.
          Students, as with the soldiers of the national army, were 'voluntarily' given the job of working with the agricultural works, transported in organized groups to the fields where they harvested their crops, corn, potatoes, grapes etc.
          Another obligatory activity for school children was their participation in various parades and festivities, all organized for the anniversary of National Day, The First of May or in order to meet the president on his visits throughout the country. The children had to participate in other choreographed shows, all in the honor of the President, sometimes broadcast on TV (an example would be a weekly show entitled 'Romania’s song of praise').
          In the absence of TV programs or any other means of entertainment, children were forced to read more, a good thing otherwise. It is uncontestable the fact that children raised during the communist era subscribed to a greater degree of culture. The children were constrained to subscribe and read a number of magazines, characters meant to instruct the children in the spirit of the party. Some included were 'Country Falcons', this for pre-scholars, another named 'Daring Children', this for elementary and students, 'Youth Spark' for teenagers and young people. 
          Obviously most pages were populated with communist propaganda and eulogies to the President, with reports of activities organized by the children and youth, controlled by the party. On the last pages there were games and comics. Among the foreign publications for children, that entered the country secretly there were the magazines Piff and Rahan, though there were lucky the children who were able to get them. The cartoons in the last years of dictatorship were broadcast only on Sundays and never more than two episodes. The grownups benefited by magazines such as 'The Magazine' (centered around articles on health, science, curiosities, UFO’s), 'Science and Techniques' or 'Tehnium' geared towards biochemistry and microelectronics. 'Stinging Nettle' was humorous, satirical, and contained cartoon pictures also very satirical. For the sports lovers there was the 'Sports Magazine', and the rest of the publications, either newspapers or magazines, such as 'Spark' and 'Free Romania' were at least 90% occupied by party propaganda and praise to comrade Ceausescu.
           At this point I would like to note that the nouns 'Sir, Mr., Mrs., Miss' were forbidden. Starting in kindergarten, the children were taught to address all grownups with 'Comrade'. For women 'Comrades', there was a magazine called 'The Woman' which showed the new trends in fashion. Among these magazines were ones of leisure such as 'Cinema'. It should be noted that a large part of these periodical publications issued almanacs as well.
           Neither Radio nor Television could broadcast foreign music, and especially Anglo-Saxon music. Only on some special occasions, such as New Year’s Eve, but even then only a small amount
          There were no private businesses, except for the small craftsmen who carried on their own activities such as boot making, tailoring, upholstery or watch making, etc. All the other commercial activities belonged to the state.
          Informants infiltrated all organizations and collectives: schools, universities, factories and although their presence was known, no one knew who they were. People feared talking amongst themselves maybe saying something not supposed of them. Even in their own homes, discontentment ran deep, and was expressed in whispers; there was a fear of revealing anything that could come against the regime.
          The owners of typewriters were forced to give annually, their fingerprints to the Militia. Every conversation with a foreign citizen was to be obligatorily reported to Militia as well. Travels outside the country were not permitted, except for ones in other communist countries, even then a lot of difficult applications had to be filled and required.
          Raising private new buildings was not permitted, and the tragedy was the forced demolition of houses in urban areas, the owners being forced to live in blocks of flats.
          Abortions were forbidden, except for some special cases, women being often forced to appeal to different methods of curettage, either at home or helped by some people that in most cases were not specialized. There are reports that indicate a number of over 9,000 women who died as a result of failed abortion. Contraceptives were legal but they could not be found in drug stores, but condoms were in abundance, especially in small stores.
          All these problems, against the background of the crash of communist regimes in Eastern Europe led to the forced removal of the Dictator in December 1989, as a result of the popular rebellions in the main cities of the country. Ceausescu was arrested by a temporary government and executed on Christmas day, a thing that no Romanian is proud of, being considered by many as a sin to commit murder, and at a completely improper time.
         It’s been 20 years since the communist regime and Ceausescu’s dictatorship were overthrown, there is not yet known the mystery of the Revolution of 1989, and the Romanians still live with the desire of finding the truth about those events.

WHAT GIFTS NOT TO GIVE A MAN FOR CHRISTMAS


When selecting a Christmas gift for your guy, you want to express your love. A true Christmas gift should come from a loving heart, something intended to make him happy.
However, the first and most important thing we should know is not to buy a guy a very expensive gift. This will scare him and will make him feel forced to keep you. He may have the impression that you are trying to buy his love and happiness and that you are an insecure person. 
Another important aspect is trying to avoid a gift that may relay the wrong message to your guy. Men are not picky when it comes to presents and will be grateful for whatever you give them. Though, we need to stay away from a few gifts such as .... well, let's start with ties.  Remember that the circumstances in which men wear ties (at job for instance) do not make them comfortable and besides men don’t like to be tied like a doggy. So this is one gift that must be avoided.
Probably some of the worst gifts for men for Christmas are socks. Let his mother get that for him, you need to think of something else. You don’t want to seem lazy and unimaginative and besides he already has two pairs of socks: a black pair and a white pair, and that's all any guy needs.
Don’t buy him the latest video game or a play station if you want to have sex during Christmas holiday.
Books are good gifts to buy a man but not for the one you love. Save the book for the guy you want to avoid, it’s very much like saying “You are such a nice fat fellow!”
Well, don’t even think about giving him the same gift you gave him the year before. He will notice.
An itchy or a home made sweater would probably make the worst gift to give your loving man.
Pen sets are another really unfortunate gift to give. With all the technology today most folks don't use them very often. Plus, it really does say “hey I couldn't find a thing for you so go write this somewhere.”
Don’t buy him cologne! Real men only wear cologne when they are courting a lady or for weddings and other special occasions. Men don't like splashing on cologne; we don’t like men who overdo cologne either. So, don't buy him a present he will only use twice a year. He still has a bottle of cologne that he got as a Christmas present ten years ago, and it will last him for the rest of his life.
Objects that are tools for work or for study may be extremely useful for some time in certain situations of life, but not on Christmas.
Let’s find out what men really want for this special occasion!
Get something hot for your guy. You would want to present him something special, which he would cherish for the lifetime, isn't it? Don’t even think of making a Christmas card for your man. "Oh honey I couldn't find anything good enough for you, I took the time to make this card to show how much I love you”. Well, he’ll think you just hate him. Guys love material things and it’s 99% that he won’t enjoy a gift that he can’t actually wear, so buy him something he can show off. Let’s give our men the gifts they’d absolutely love, for instance a Louis Vuitton wallet will make him feel special, he’ll get a kick every time he uses it. And did I mention this gift will last him years and years?
A silver ring is one of the nicest Christmas presents for a boyfriend or husband. It looks quite stylish and trendy. Don’t forget to carve his name or your name on it.
If your guy loves to have his own collection of wristwatches, then presenting a wrist watch to him will be a great idea! Surprise him with his favorite wristwatch and see the sparkle in his eyes! 
Buying gifts for men should be an expression of your feelings, and the experience should be pleasurable rather than stressful. Whatever you choose, ladies, look at this gift with your man’s eyes, and you’ll definitely make the right decision. And … remember, don’t do the sweater mistake.




Definitely this is not an easy question to answer and surely the reasons why men cheat are numerous and varied. But we want to particularly know why our man cheated. We shall start by defining cheating and settling the border between what is “cheating” and not. Does there have to be a certain “commitment” so that we can accuse our man of cheating? Do we have to be married or engaged to be able to label him as a “cheater”. Well, I don’t think so. Cheater is the one who lets you know you are the only woman in his life while this is not true. So the level of commitment does not excuse him for being unfaithful.
Is only the sexual element likely to provoke the act of “cheating”? Certainly not. Remember the bible’s words “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Nothing is truer, so believe me, HE HAS NO ESCUSE. Don’t be tolerant! Excuses such as, "I barely know her, I never touched her or it was just sex", should only be reasons to get you even more furious.
The more explicit the act of cheating is the bigger the pain for the betrayed. In this stage it’s obvious that feelings get dramatically damaged, basically nothing form this point on will be the same. All will inevitably result in "breaking up" that will show up sooner or later in the form of divorce or separation or just in slowly falling out of love: in her heart, the betrayed woman has broken up, but does not separate, generally in couples with children. One thing is clear, nothing in the heart of the betrayed will ever be the same and the woman will later continue looking for the guy of her dreams. But now let’s make an ex ray of the betrayed in order to notice and understand the repercussions of cheating:
1. The first reaction will be to get angry and cry. Woman feels like the whole world is collapsing around her. Feelings such as hatred or thoughts of revenge might appear as well.
2. Another reaction might be to try to repair the relationship believing that you are to blame for his infidelity.
3. Others might think about going on with the relationship when there are involved children or when she really loves the man and for the moment leaving him would hurt her more than accepting his infideliy.
Depending on which of those two reactions are stronger the woman will decide whether she goes on with the relationship or not.
In case you decide not to go on with the relationship which is the single recommendable decision, the woman should be very firm about it. Adios muchacho! Do not answer his phone calls, emails, text messages or at the door. In case you are not married thank God every day that you did not! You would be paying a lawyer to help you get rid of him! What do you want to do: to give him a second chance to break your heart?
If you chose to keep your cheating guy (at least until you undertand that you deserve more than that), then handle the situation very carefully. Be calm, make it clear to him that you forgive him, but also assure him that there will not be a next time. Don’t let him fool you again and again, all he will understand is that you have no self-respect and that you agree with his behavior, which YOU DON”T.
Some women may chose to go on with the realtionship as they don’t want to remain alone and just want to prolong the relationship until something better shows up. Let’s say it’s just about the fear of loneliness: "He's better than nothing!"
Let’s concentrate now on the question why do men cheat? Do all men cheat? NO. A man who knows what he wants never takes chances.
Here’s when and why men cheat:
1. He never intended to have any sort of commitments with you in case he is not your husband. He doesn’t take the relationship seriously.
2. The cheater is no longer satisfied with his woman but in the same time is too weak to end the current relationship.
3. They need new sex, more sex or different sex (that’s why they don’t necessarily cheat with women that are more attractive than their partners). That's why the saying "when she gets undressed is magic, when you get undressed is tragic" is not always true.
4. When he no longer feels sexually attracted to you or when you seem disinterested, or don’t offer him enough sex.
5. He met somebody new who seems to have more in common with him, who is more receptive at his interests and desires, which is more supportive. He will never fail to check their compatibilities in bed too.
6. If you have forgiven him for cheating you in the past it is 100% sure that he will do it again. It’s all that is in his mind. So he cheats you because he did it before, here is another reason.
7. You argue too much and he needs someone who is happy and smiling all the time, someone who offers him the peace he needs.
8. He might also cheat because you have gained weight and are no longer attractive.
What about when men cheat on beautiful women? Well, there is one explanation available.
9. Men cheat with women that are “available”, (beautiful women and not very likely to be singles, so as a consequence they go for what others refused - the uglies). Whenever the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for a man to turn it down.
To some guys cheating is actually a mental disorder. They are simply sex addicts. They go to prostitutes, visit porn sites. Most of those men have happy relationships and they might even feel guilty for cheating, but they just can't stop! (See the cases of celebrities where very beautiful women are unexplainably cheated by their partners.)
This cheater will always try to find an excuse for his behavior: he will tell you that he was drunk, trickled, drugged, seduced, mislead. The cheater will never accept the responsibility. That’s how little he is.
When a man cheats while he is married, engaged or involved in a long term relationship, it is obvious that he doesn’t love his partner. Another reason may also be that he doesn’t want to stay in the relationship but feels he can not get out for reasons such as: children, religion, family business, they fear they might end by being alone, they are afraid of a bad reaction from their family members, etc.).
Cheaters SHOULD do us all a favor: GET OUT OF WHAT THEY ARE IN, THEN GO FOR THE OTHER PERSON. This is the only HONEST way to do it.
In my opinion breaking up is the best way to deal with a cheater. Cheating proves so clearly that the man you love doesn’t care about you. The only circumstance in which you can try to repair the situation is if you have kids WITH HIM and in this case it’s worth repairing the relationship. If you have children with this cheater and you consider that you might be responsible for one of the reason I listed above (if you neglected him, if you stopped showing interest and being supportive, etc), try to repair your poor relationship, though it was proved that the breaking up will occur one day. Once your man cheats on you, nothing is more obvious than the fact that he no longer cares about you.
It might be true that sex has nothing to do with love, but when you love somebody you don’t lie and hurt the one you love. And men who cheat will always repeat their offense; some do this right after they get caught. Only a few women will stay with a cheater, especially the ones that are really in love or like I mentioned before, the ones who have children with the cheater, but this should not make him feel any happier, because in both cases he will never enjoy the love and the respect he had before from his partner. So it’s a lost cause from the start for them too. 
Prior to their act of cheating, men don't feel guilty, only after they get caught they might have a few regrets and mostly conneceted to the fact that they got caught and not that they hurt you. If he is not discovered he goes on cheating with no remorse, that's what makes such men real cold blooded individuals. Some go on with the clandestine relationship right after getting caught. Nothing seems to stop them.
Remember that cheating is nothing but a proof of low self esteem, little self worth,  sign of being immature and unsure, for all sort of cheaters, both men and women.

No matter how much you loved him, how great sex was with him, no matter how rich he is or how far along the pregnancy, it's time for you to wake up, there are plenty of good men left out there and you don't want to miss them!


First off ... good girls don't cheat, but if you happen to have one of those bad girls, you might want to find out why they cheat.
Despite the difference in excuses between men and women, my conclusion is the same as it was for the men: decide if the current relationship is what you want before getting involved with someone else, not afterward!
In my previous article entitled “WHY DO MEN CHEAT”, I tried to set the boundary between what’s cheating and what’s not. I will reiterate my opinion, saying that all forms of betrayal including clandestine kisses, and all that explicitly express your partner’s interest in another person, define the act of cheating.
Though let’s take a look at what seem to be the main reasons why a woman is likely to cheat:
1. Loneliness. Even if they are married or living with their partners, women often feel lonely, especially housewives whose partners are too much involved with their work or hobbies and no longer offer their woman the attention she expects.
2. Betrayal of a cheating partner. The woman revenges on her cheating man, remember the quote "eye for an eye". In this situation, the woman may cheat only if she suspects that her partner may have an affair.
3. Not enough sex. Rarely a woman would cheat purely out of lust. So this must represent the most insignificant reason why a woman can be determined to cheat.
4. The man gets lazy and no longer takes care of himself.
5. Loss of self esteem. The man no longer seems to offer his woman affection and admiration. In this situation, the woman tries to receive those two needs from another man, who seems to be more receptive to her desires. She also needs to prove herself that she still has sex appeal and can still be attractive to men. So those type of women need to get gratification from outside their relationship. The woman is complexed with her physical aspect and needs to be confirmed she is still desired, and thus, attention from someone else becomes extremely seductive.
One of the reasons that affairs happen is because the woman is trying to repair the way she feels about herself. She feels undesired.
Opposed to men who hide their affairs and give ridiculous explanations for what they did, women are more likely to admit they cheated. Some will themselves let you know when they cheated on you and besides they will also give you the exact reason for their deed.
Those seem to be the reasons why women cheat, although cheating is not justifiable either in women or in men. Cheating is one of the most hurtful things that a woman can do to her man.
Don’t forget one thing: If you are a woman sleeping with another man, not only are you cheating, but you are considered less honorable. So women cheating on their partners or sleeping with someone else’s man or women who have more than one sex partner is not a respectable woman and you don’t want to be of these women, that’s to say a woman with no pride and low self-esteem. No decent woman indulges herself into this sort of relationships. A woman with more sex partners is by definition a woman who is not content with the way she looks and is trying to prove herself that she is “hot” while she is only “available” for everyone.
Cheating is never accidental; it is always intentional both in men and women. It is a proof that your partner doesn't care for you that much that she/he would be faithful. Cheating can only prove lack of respect and loyalty to you. The conclusion: Don't make excuses for your cheating woman!


Men have always been a mystery to us and this doesn't seem to elucidate as we get older. Every time we step into a new relationship we have the feeling that we finally got the man that we can control and totally understand, remeber yourself saying "he is the one". Well? Wrong. The main problem with understanding men results from the simple fact that guys themselves don’t even know what they really want or need from us. This explains why on the one hand men say one thing and end by doing exactly the opposite. And on the other hand they seem to give us very confusing signs. They say things that completely mislead us or set us wondering. There are mainly two reasons why men are so confusing.
1. What did he mean? There’s a little psychologist in every women, we always tend to analyze their behavior and we try to understand the truth that may or may not be hidden behind this blurred attitude. They don’t seem to send us the fully comprehensive message that we wait for. One explanation consists in the fact that guys hide their true feelings, because for centuries society says that men have to be strong. Men take a passive attitude when it comes to their love life, rarely will a “guy talk” consist in “love” topics. And when we bring love into conversation they don’t seem to come with a concrete solution or at least one complete comprehensive phrase. Other times, guys simply don’t figure out what we expect or desire. Why? Simply because men are absent-minded and don’t have intuition. Besides, women are simply born with the ability to have better verbal skills and intuition while men do not possess such talents. So when he doesn’t react the way you expect it doesn’t necessarily mean that he doesn’t care or that he is afraid to call things by their proper name. But …
2. It’s also true that men hesitate to express their feelings very frankly when they are not ready to assume the responsibilities that might follow up, such as engagement, marriage, children. I can only figure out two explanations why this thing is actually happening: either he is not sure you’re the woman he had been dreaming of and wants to keep searching, or he had a failed experience before and is afraid to get disappointed or disappoint you, situation which is VERY rarely to occur though, so more than likely the first explanation is more plausible. 
On the opposite pole, some guys find it very easy to just splash wheedling words and declarations of love. Well, these are the guys that always cheat you just as easy. Those men find it so easy to say the crucial “I love you” you’ve been waiting to hear. Why? Some men are able to say anything just to have sex with you. This is the typical playboy kind of guy who can end his phone conversation with you, reiterating his deepest emotions and the next moment he calls “the other one” repeating the same cliché with her. It’s known that half of men date ONLY to have sex. But don’t panic, the following guideliness will help us understand men, spot cheaters and defeat them with their own weapons, recognise an honest relationship and finally take over men, so that we won’t end by having a broken heart again. 
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WHAT GIFTS NOT TO GIVE A WOMAN FOR CHRISTMAS


Getting the right Christmas gift for your woman seems to be a complex process, giving real headaches, a very risky operation in the same time, as we, the ladies, are susceptible and hard to satisfy. We also tend to misinterpret men’s actions, always thinking that there is something hidden behind all their words, actions, smiles.
For instance, if you keep your eyes closed when making love to her, she’ll think that you imagine yourself making love with someone else. That’s how suspicious they are.So, as a guy, you need to know what gift not to give your woman. Consequently, don’t even think about buying her any household items such as toasters, blenders, pots or pans, she’s not Jamie Oliver, remember? Don’t buy detergents! (“Darling, I got you the biggest bag you could ever dream of!”) Well, if things are so, my best piece of advice is that you’d better get ready to run.
Don’t buy her sharp objects, such as kitchen knives sets, she’ll use them on you first time you have lipstick on your collar after an evening with the guys.
Don’t buy things for you and pretend they are for her: “Honey, I bought this set of drills for you! Remember when I repaired your wardrobe and we had to borrow one? Well … you got your own set now!” If you thought of such a gift, I’m telling you, this will be your last Christmas together.
Don’t buy your woman Disney characters pajamas. She’ll think you don’t consider her to be a sexy woman. Get your wallet and go get her some hot Triumph lingerie.
Don’t buy her any ordinary Eau de Toilette, which really smells like a toilet. If you are going to spend $5.00 on a gift, buy her a box of chocolates instead. If you really want to buy her a perfume, get one of the best French brands such as Lancôme, Yves Saint-Laurent, Lacoste or Givenchy.
Don’t buy her clothes, you don’t believe you suddenly started having fashion skills, do you? But, also because women's sizes in clothing vary widely from store and brands. What is a size 8 in a Levi can be actually a size 9 or 10 even in Route 66. So if you were to get her something too small she would think "You want me to loose weight to get into this!" or "Don't you know what size I wear?!"
Don’t buy her anti wrinkle creams. She might even use this against you in the court of law.
Puppies or kittens won’t make a good Christmas gift too. During the holiday season people are so busy that they don't have the time it takes to fulfill a new pup's 'round the clock demands.
The first rule in picking the right Christmas gift for your woman is to get her something that appears to have taken SOME effort. Remember, women like to take a lot of your time, money and attention. 
Diamonds are girl’s best friend; buy her a diamond necklace, bracelet, ankle chain, a ring or a Gucci watch. Women love being showered with beautiful, expensive gifts and being pampered with expensive jewelry especially diamonds, gold, silver, platinum jewelry. Remember, don’t buy her cheap gifts, in women’s mind, gifts are always referred to as money and as long as she has a decent Internet connection she’ll be able to find out immediately how much you spent on her. “So, that’s how much I am worth!”
You can also go wrong all over the place with a piece of jewelry as a gift. If you’re together forever and ever and she keeps pressuring you for marriage, any piece of jewelry is going to tick her off unless it is an engagement ring.
Engraved jewelry is a big hit for your woman, so don’t forget to get your name, initials or a message engraved on the pendant, necklace, bracelet, ring etc. This engraved jewelry is ideal as a gift on Christmas to your special woman.
Purses are always a good choice, women love to carry around $20,000 bags that are impossible to distinguish from the $20 bags.
Mobile phones in various shapes and sizes are always gifts that will be loved by the woman in your life. Women love flaunting their mobile phones at all occasions.
Other electronic gifts such as a laptop or an Apple Mac would be an ideal expensive gift if your woman loves computers. She'll love its stylish contours as well as its versatile functions.
If you have enough money to impress, an original antique or classic painting will be a wonderful gift but new and original artwork will also do if you pick the right one.
Finally, buy her a car. What? I said ….buy her A CAR!
Anyway, before setting off for your Christmas shopping, listen to the receiver of your gift, she might just drop a hint. Or, if you are totally clueless, ask her to draw up a wish list. Whatever you decide to buy ensure that you get the gift wrapped well. Women like to know you spent time wrapping the gift. And keep in mind that when you’re shopping for a gift for a woman, your top priority is to make her happy.